Actually? The 'regular people's cable tv'--in some ways--has proved helpful.
How? Well, Tom's watching all those kitties and puppies has helped him realize, firmly, that he loves animals and perhaps he'd enjoy volunteering at our local animal shelter. And with his love of learning about history, also, maybe he could develop a hobby/job/club around that.
Whew! I was so relieved to hear that because for all these 15 months of his joblessness, Tom's not been able to figure out what to do next. What he loves or makes him tick (as they say). Well, besides guitars and amplifiers, he loves those. And music. And football.
See, I believe that as with tons and tons of men and women who work full-time then hit retirement, Tom was so busy with his job all those years, working 12-hour days, that he never had (or never took) the time to develop other interests or callings or talents, though he did sing and play the guitar beautifully until he stopped a decade ago and doesn't wish to start back up.
And the same thing often happens to moms who build their lives around their children. When the (adult) children fly away from the nest, silence! Suddenly there's too much quiet and the daily goals and visions fade away and the shock of it all has paralyzed many a terrific mom.
That sort of "stay busy, busy, busy so you don't have time to know who you really are" can sink the best of us.
But how to rise above it? I would say start asking questions: "What do I love to do? To watch? To read? What kind of music do I like best? Where do I enjoy spending time? If I could travel anywhere, where would that be? What kinds of injustices in the tv news make my blood boil? What are my favorite colors? Do I have any hobbies? With whom do I enjoy spending time? What kinds of conversations make me feel vitally alive? If I could go back to college, what would I enjoy studying? If I could have any job, what would it be? What would I need to do first in order to acquire that job? Can I begin in a small way today to succeed?" And more.
Basically? I feel too many people reach their mid-40's or 50's without knowing who it is God designed them to be. Somehow they've spent whole decades unacquainted with--and avoiding-- themselves.
And for them I would say--it's never too late to discover who you really are. Today would be a marvelous day to begin the search, the exciting journey.
Speaking of hobbies, I don't believe I've ever told you that for, like, forever I've collected wheat-back pennies. Oh, not in a hoarding, obsessive, wild-eyed sort of way, but for decades whenever I've found a wheat-back penny I've kept it and placed it here:
Someday I will do research then sit down and peer at them to see if any are worth anything more than 1 cent. I'd better do it quickly before my over-40 eyes rebel anymore than they already have (oh, the small writing!).
Which reminds me, a couple weeks ago I discovered this article about how lots of people are hoarding pennies made in 1982 and earlier. If a certain law passes, they'll be able to melt them down for the copper and make oodles of money. How fun! That inspired me to paw through our two largish change containers so I could separate the pre-1983 pennies from all the rest and I'm nearly finished doing so (Tom helped me a bit).
For years I'd been meaning to carry these containers of change to a machine which gives you a receipt which you then turn-in for cash, but hey! This time my procrastination did me a favor. I would have lost all those copper pennies otherwise. (Occasionally, I've found, procrastination comes in handy. But notice the 'occasionally' word!) :)
Just thought I'd share my penny hobby with you for fun.
The top photo? That's my all-time favorite devotional book, God Calling. I've used it exclusively for more than ten years because it's like a daily note from God, one that always hits the spot. How could I ever give it up when it contains this sort of comforting loveliness inside?:
"Fullness of Joy. The Joy of Perpetual Guidance. The Joy of knowing that every detail of your lives is planned by Me, but planned with a wealth of tenderness and Love.
Wait for Guidance in every step. Wait to be shown My way. The thought of this loving leading should give you great Joy. All the responsibility of Life taken off your shoulders. All its business worry taken off your shoulders. It is indeed a Joy for you to feel so free and yet so planned for.
Oh! the wonder of this a God-guided life. To think anything impossible in such circumstances is to say it cannot be done by Me. To say that is surely a denial of Me.
"That which we have seen and heard declare we unto you, that ye also may have fellowship with us: and truly our fellowship is with the Father, and with his Son." 1 John 1:3"
If you'd like to follow God Calling daily online, go here.
Speaking of puppies, oh! This video is adorable.