Tuesday, January 17, 2012
Taking Anti-Nagging 101 Again
Oh! Since moving to Hobbit Cottage my passions have all happily resurrected themselves.
I find I'm passionate about:
Spending time with God
Encouraging others through writing in this blog
Searching for online coupons, supermarket shopping for great deals
Emailing friends and those who need encouragement
Reading for pleasure
Learning new things, especially how to live cheaply, though well.
Decorating, keeping a neat house
Finding favorite tv shows/movies/documentaries online
Cooking while listening to my new favorite retro radio music station
But Tom? What's he passionate about here at Hobbit Cottage?
Gah. That's it.
Oh my, do you know how frustrating it is when I (me, me, me), the Great Inspiration Spreader, can't inspire her own husband to get up off his recliner?
I've heard people say, "Oh, it was so humbling when my students nominated me for Teacher of the Year." But do you know what's a whole lot more humbling than that? It's when you spend months nagging your own husband and sending him inspiring email links and lecturing, psycho-analyzing, and sharing all sorts of pep talks only to have God tell you, "Uh, Debra... Have you noticed none of this is working?"
Yeah, yeah, yeah, Lord. I noticed. I know, I know.
So once again, God's telling me to back-off. To lose the constant low-grade frustration. To remember that I'm not to be my husband's teacher and to put Tom in God's hands, trust God with him there, then just continue along my merry way with my own passions. Because hey, living what you preach is the most powerful thing on Earth, especially if there's love involved. And it is love that's, ultimately, making me want to see Tom reach his full potential. But nagging him into that full potential? Nah, that will not work. God will see to that.
"Just live the life, yourself. Live it, live it, live it. Inspire by doing... and trust. Trust much."
Yeah, Lord, I know. But, like, please help me remember that for more than just two days in a row, ok? :)
In case you're wondering, Tom seems perfectly happy and contented to watch tv for a living, yet he also agrees with me whenever I try to coach him to do other things (the man knows how to avoid an argument). I tell him if I could just see him trying to find a passion, I'd feel better.
"The Lord frustrates the plans of the nations (and well-meaning housewives...heh...) and thwarts all their schemes." ... Psalm 33:10
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