Wednesday, April 25, 2012

The Net--Making Us Lonely?



So did you read that article entitled, Is Facebook Making Us Lonely? Frankly, I didn't read the entire thing because, my oh my, was that baby ever wordy! And now in my later years? Just give it to me in a few clear, precise sentences, please, so I can move on with the decreased remaining years of my life.


I mean, hey...


Anyway, I found the article, well, silly. Yes, silly because throughout all of Time anything becomes what we, ourselves, make of it. Anything. And the easiest thing, ever, is to blame, blame, blame other people, their choices and differing methods, traditions, ways of life--and now--social media for our own lack of common sense.


Whatever happened to personal responsibility? To staying far away from the selfish thing known as Me Me Me? Where did balance go, for heaven's sake? 


Good gracious. For myself? In the 12 years since I first went online, I've found the Internet to be a whole other (delightful) world where new friends stand along every field and sidewalk, waiting to reach for my hand and pull me into their homes. Oh, the fellowship of kindred spirits I've found in these 'hoods! The deep conversations and the playful ones, too. The reunions. The parties. The peeks into homes and the inspiration for all things decor and friendship and spirituality-related.


Oh, what I get back from all that interaction!


And mostly? It blows my mind how much giving of myself I can do within the realms of this Net world. In just one day I can send lots of ecards or emails to tons of friends so to encourage them, lift them higher, or to just express my gratitude that they stepped into my life. I can comment at blogs, letting others know their valid, important thoughts have touched and inspired me. I can congratulate friends at Facebook on the births of their children, grandchildren or on their promotions, graduations, new marriage, home, pets, shoes, yard re-do's or cars or --


Also at Facebook (or in emails or ecards or --) I can respond to prayer requests, the aches in peoples' hearts, letting them know they're not praying alone, but rather, I and other of their friends will pray, also. I can spread those prayer needs to at least one hundred other people in a matter of moments, thus increasing the intensity of the prayer going upward toward God.  And I can go about my day here in 'real life' praying while I work or shop or drive downtown, bearing others' burdens as the Bible instructs me.


At amazon.com (and other stores) I can order surprise gifts for friends either just because of my gratitude for them or as a lift to their spirits. I can email gift cards to those who rarely have money to spend on themselves. I can send birthday ecards or gifts or greetings at Facebook to make others feel especially glad they were born on their special day and that they have friends in these troubling 2012 times.


Let's face it--sometimes we're lonely simply because we're not giving. Not enough, anyway.


Here online I can keep a blog where I share my deepest thoughts to an audience who cares to hear them (an audience I found quite hard to find during my pre-Internet days). I can finally say here what I always found difficult expressing before, being a better writer than speaker, especially when it came to the phone, not being a phone person at all. Basically? It feels incredible to finally feel listened to. Heard.


Oh, the seeds I can wildly spread all over the Internet! Good, healthy seeds which will reap good, healthy blessings in this Internet Land for others and myself, as well. Seeds which will grow and leave a huge part of my eternal legacy. 


Facebook or any part of the Net is making me lonelier? Ha! Not even. Not as long as I behave myself here as God would have me behave anywhere else in the so-called Real World.




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"Bear one another’s burdens, and so you will fulfill the law of Christ."  ... Galations 6:2


"He who willfully separates and estranges himself [from God and man] seeks his own desire and pretext to break out against all wise and sound judgment."  ... Proverbs 18:1




"Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others."  ... Philippians 2:4

















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 "Store up in your hearts these parting words, be ashamed to die until you have won some victory for humanity." - Horace Mann, Educator




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5 comments:

Dolores said...

Debra, I agree 100% with you. I didn't think that there were any other people in the world like me until I went online and started reading blogs. As for facebook, I now communicate with people I have not seen or spoken to in 30 years! Great post.

Morning's Minion said...

Well said!
The internet has greatly enriched my communication with family and old friends--and made new friends whom I will never meet in person.
Could online time become an obcession? Of course--so could TV [if I enjoyed it!] or reading or any number of pastimes.

Tracy said...

Well said, Debra!

K.E. said...

That was a wordy, but interesting, article. Some of it applied to me.
Slate.com posted a rebuttal of sorts. It's much shorter. :)

http://www.slate.com/articles/life/culturebox/2012/04/is_facebook_making_us_lonely_no_the_atlantic_cover_story_is_wrong_.html

Elizabeth said...

You are so right Debra! It is like anything else,what we make of it! If not for the internet I would not have met you or many other dear friends I have.