Yep, it's been just like that these 7 weeks that Tom's been away. The peace has passed all understanding, made little sense in all its hugeness, so I've just gone with it, splashed around in it and had one marvelous time.
Of course, not everyone understands that. They believe if their husband left for 7 weeks they'd crumble to pieces and so I should have at least cried a lot and crossed off the dates on the calendar and worried about his visiting deep, dark South Africa, as well.
And while I'm at it, years ago friends started saying they didn't understand me. Didn't get how I can appear so happy yet I only had one child, no grandchildren, I live thousands of miles from the family I was born into, I didn't finish college and since marrying, I've never had a 'real job'. Some have assumed I'm actually a closet miserable lady only pretending otherwise.
But dare I say this? Many people never learn to see past their own narrow frame of reference:
Frame of reference: " a set of ideas, conditions, or assumptions that determine how something will be approached, perceived, or understood."
Tons of folks only view other peoples' lives through their own experiences and lifestyle. So if some (poor ol') lady lives a completely opposite way, then the assumption becomes: that lady is missing out, missing the mark, not living fully and therefore incomplete and sad deep inside.
Yes, it's possible to be so huge within our own eyes that anyone living differently appears small and to be pitied. Tsk. Tsk.
God is huge and He created a gigantic world with myriad ways of expressing who He created us to be. And the wonderful thing? He gives us special Grace for special tasks. What would be a struggle for others is made simple and joy-filled in our obedience. What others would consider a void, God fills with Himself... and He is always plenty.
There is more than one way to live and do things, all within the Bible's parameters. Don't worry--I'm not advocating otherwise.
It is possible to live a wonderful life without being pressed from just one ol' basic cookie cutter. In God, with God, through God we can be the complete, unique individual He created us each to be. And truthfully? He's pleased when we finally begin walking that custom-made path.
Finished (for now) my upstairs bedroom chairs last week:
Polka dots are my new love.
And what am I doing today before Tom arrives home? All the little things I've procrastinated for the past 7 weeks. :)
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