"There is a time to be born and a time to die..." ... from Ecclesiastes 3
... and last night was Tom's dad's time to die. Both our fathers died in the month of October, Tom's dad passed away on my mother's birthday and just days ago she and I spoke about how my grandfather died on my sister's birthday and on my sister's son's birthday, our dad (his grandfather) passed away.
Birth. Death. Always entwined.
People die--they just do. We all just do. It's how God planned things and we'll find true peace if we accept that death is very much a part of life. I've seen too many people on hoarder-type shows (and in Real Life) who were so shocked by their parents' deaths, so unprepared in their hearts, so non-accepting of the whole idea of death, that they became paralyzed into an early sort of death, themselves, for the remainder of their years.
Always, God has something better. And if we keep Him close--the only one who does understand everything--His presence will comfort us, and life will be good even while we don't quite get it all.
Tom has a business trip to Maryland on Tuesday, but he may squeeze in a quick flight to California first. We're not sure what we'll do. This is all still new--it happened suddenly after a massive heart attack late last night.
Tom's dad was 86 and lived a long, adventurous early life as a minister, as a missionary to Mexico where Tom was born (the last of 4 children), he and Tom's mom ran a Bible camp and later became cross country truckers. Last February he was given days to live, but he surprised everyone, perked right up, and lasted another 8 months.
And now he resides in Heaven with the growing crowd of folks we know there who wait for us.
"Precious in the sight of the Lord is the death of his faithful servants." ... Psalm 116:15
People say, "Just move-on!" And yes, we should move-on. But perhaps not before we heal or--at least--begin healing. Otherwise our moving-on becomes limping on, staggering on, causing scraped knees and more pain, not less. Though much healing can happen on the road, maybe it must always be a continuation of what happened in stillness before the journey.
"He says, “Be still, and know that I am God..." ... Psalm 46:10
At least, that's what I've been thinking about this week.
If you enjoy vintage photography, I'm sure you'll like these and these.
(Thanks to Kim for sharing those at Facebook this morning!)