In wading through my old posts, I found this one. Just for fun today-- and for a more peaceful life.
(Intriguing title, huh?) ツ
I've been married soo long and well, I've learned there are, basically, two kinds of arguments:
The ones you cannot avoid.
And the ones you can.
Today? The blow-ups I avoid by hiding things.
Like what, you ask?
Like my very own toolbox. Twenty years ago I bought a toolbox and began collecting tools for it (cheap Dollar Tree types. It's not like I use them everyday).
I'd become weary of needing hammers/screwdrivers/stud-finders/nails, etc., while Tom was at work and having to wade through piles of his tools to find them--or not. Usually not, which of course required that I nag Tom about his lack of organization and my frustration thereof.
A real marriage-saver, that one. My toolbox is my responsibility and I keep it hidden, so if a tool is missing? It's my own fault. End of where's-the-tools? squabbles. Whew.
Something else I hide? A chunky black indelible marker which I find indispensable for my kitchen. After probably 300 did-you-lose-my-chunky-black-marker-again? arguments, I finally thought to hide my marker in the hoosier cabinet, a cupboard Tom never peeks inside.
Oh my, Life feels so good when I know my chunky black marker is still where I placed it. And now no needless chunky black marker 'discussions', ever.
Know what else lives inside that cupboard? My very own flashlight. It only took me 27 years to start hiding one of those. No more why-can't-I-ever-find-a-flashlight-around-here? fights. Oh, how sweet that is!
I also hide my own scissors, stapler, glue and measuring tapes.
Get the idea? I'm not speaking about keeping secrets from your spouse,(lest you thought I was going there. Heh.) No, it's more like this:
Many arguments saved(avoided) = lots of peace and harmony earned.
Well, at least, that's what I've found.
And if you've kids still at home and they discover/use your personal belongings?
1. Find better hiding places.
2. Go stronger on the issue of respecting others' belongings (of course while aiming at faithfulness in that area. Er hem.).
"The tendency to whining and complaining my be taken as the surest sign symptom of little souls and inferior intellects. ... Lord Jeffrey
Tom and I enjoyed the movie, First Man. Interesting, educational, thought-provoking. A smattering of language and perhaps we fast-forwarded a scene, I'm not certain.
But overall--very good.