Tuesday, May 01, 2018

Please Don't Lose This One Thing


"Then our mouth was filled with laughter, and our tongue with shouts of joy; then they said among the nations, “The Lord has done great things for them.”   ... Psalm 126:2


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This morning Erma Bombeck and I went to the coffee shop.





Erma told me hilarious family stories, but then I paused, sipped my coffee and gazed out the front windows to the large hotel, river, homes and traffic--and remembered something. 

Twenty-five years ago I watched an interview with Erma where she reminisced about a visit with a young woman in prison who'd killed her little child. This woman would spend her life's remainder there. 

She'd only recently discovered Erma's books via the prison library. Erma spoke a bit with her about what she'd done and the woman told of her struggles in patience with her often-crying, disobedient baby.

Erma said she, herself, had often needed to use her sense of humor when dealing with her own three boisterous children, to which the woman hung her head and replied, "I didn't know you could laugh about those things. No one ever told me."

Even decades later that story often returns to haunt me. 

It reminds me that a sense of humor can save relationships, our days (from turning sour) and our minds, even. And that God's joy is strength that keeps us from doing what could ruin everything.

And honestly? Since the last presidential election many folks (it seems to me) have lost huge chunks of their sense of humor. They're not who they were, but angrier. Most things have become a very-big-hairy deal and their words sound like lectures (which gets old). And their friendships disappeared soon after the laughter did.

And some people, sadly, haven't survived.

Politics, traffic jams, children, spouses, pets, bills, long lines, loud celebrities. The stalled car. The job loss. The broken washing machine. The too small house or budget. "I didn't know you could laugh about those things."

Well yes, you can. With a sense of humor--and with a huge God who cares about it all.

If you won't let this crazy world knock you down. If you at least try spinning a thing from its dark to its bright side, instead. And if you determine to remember this:

"Greater is He who's within me than he who's within this (it's too easy just looking at the bad) world."   ... 1 John 4:4, tweaked


Always remember that, ok?








"A joyful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones."   ...Proverbs 17:22




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Speaking of a sense of humor--




At 5:00 pm on Sunday, we stepped through the door of another of Naomi and Justin's early-evening-thank-goodness restaurant gigs and oh! 

In honor of Tom's birthday, Naomi had invited three old friends we'd not seen in oodles of years (she'd hinted she might), also, another friend arrived because I'd clicked 'interested' (re: this gig) at Facebook, plus, dear, faithful Kellee awaited us there as well as Justin's parents who we'd not yet met.

Two of these ladies are sisters and two of the funniest gals I know. If there's a funny spin to be found, they'll spin it that way and you'll come away, smiling. For hours, refreshed.

Wow! Grander goings-on than simple-livin' ol' Tom and I are used to. 

We shouted over the music with our old friends and caught up, took pictures, ate dinner, laughed much and had a royal lovely time. (All wispy-voiced on the way to the car, I told Tom I'd been meaning to, at home, increase the volume of my voice for times likes these, but had hesitated lest the neighbors believe I'm yelling at myself. heh.)

Always, it's great to be with people with whom whole decades of time away still create no awkwardness. It's a God-thing, I believe, rather like a preview of our someday reunions in Heaven.





A sense of humor is a major defense against minor troubles.


 ---Mignon McLaughlin


A person without a sense of humor is like a wagon without springs. It's jolted by every pebble on the road. 

---Henry Ward Beecher


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7 comments:

Robin in New Jersey said...

A joyful heart is good medicine indeed. So glad to read that you and Tom got out and had fun! It does a soul good to visit and share. 😄

Terra said...

Laughing is great medicine for sure and your time with friends included lots of laughter. Well done.

Betsy said...

I’m so glad that you and Tom had a wonderful evening out together with your friends. I think times like that are very important. I also agree with you about the state of the world these days and the sense of joy that seems to of left. Angry, angry people. Friendships destroyed over these angry words. It’s all so very sad. Thank you for your wise and uplifting words, especially the Scriptures.
Blessings, Betsy

Elizabeth said...

Getting together with friends is very therapeutic, as is laughter! Glad you had a good time. Love this post!

Yellowhouse Grandma said...

Such good reminders Debra! We just had friends come and spend two nights with us and a wonderful time we had! We’ve been friends since 1962, she and I! It was so nice. It’s great being retired so we can do this now. Many laughs together.

Deborah Raney said...

So very wise and true.

Debi @ Tuesdays Child said...

So happy that you and Tom had a good time while you were out.

Thanks so much for this post - it is one of the more awesome posts I've read in a very long time [though yours are ALWAYS good!!]

(Hugs)

Debi