Sunday, August 22, 2010

Letting Go For Real. Forever.


There's good news and bad news.


First, the good news. This will be the final time I will speak of this for months, so at least you can now come here and not dread reading about it again.


Some of you will understand. Others will think me crazy or ungrateful. But, oh well...


Okay, now the bad news... See that photo, above? Yesterday morning, Tom dragged home that huge, heavy, ugly, heavy, rusty and did I mention heavy trailer-mounted lawn vacuum. A man gave it to Tom for free and he told me he couldn't pass up that kind of a deal.


I stared at that heavy/ugly piece of machinery and then I looked over at my husband who has seven herniated discs in his back and neck and this is what I said:


"This is the last straw. This broke the camel's back and I refuse to let it break yours. Next Spring we are sticking a For Sale sign on the front lawn. I cannot handle this pressure. I can no longer watch you self-destruct. I see now that you can't help yourself when it comes to tractor stuff so--to save your life--we are going to sell this house."


Yes, that's what I told him. I wasn't even overly-emotional this time, but just matter-of-fact and, well, defeated. And tired. Tired of watching Tom not use wisdom and tired of my own pretending this farm thing is working. It's not.


Almost immediately Tom realized he should never have lugged that clunky thing home and so he contacted his partner in crime, Al, to see if he'd like it. Al will take just about anything. (Yes, rather like, "Give it to Mikey--he'll eat anything.") heh.


And then we drove down country roads to an estate sale inside a barn (I bought three perfect books), ate lunch at an incredibly old-fashioned hamburger stand beside a scenic part of The Erie Canal, grocery-shopped in a tiny place I call Grover's Corners and had a wonderful day.


In September we'll invite our favorite real estate lady, Cher, over to dinner (as we promised two years ago) and we'll ply her with questions, many, some which I already asked in a letter I mailed to her Friday when I was still vacillating about selling.


I am vacillating no more. And already there is peace inside my head, the struggle is gone and dreams of a cottage-y place and clutter-given-away and a tiny, manageable yard are being birthed. There's a new, lighter, freer phase ahead for us and I'm almost giddy about it.


New dreams for a new day. And always there will be gratitude that we made this bold move, did the farm thing and for the rest of our lives we will never have to wonder, "What if we had ...?"


We moved, we made discoveries, we lived memorably... and we learned this was a short, but necessary, season in our lives. And hey...it was never meant to last forever, anyway. We knew that going in. We knew that on moving day.

8 comments:

  1. Never look back, I think it has been a wonderful journey for you both. But now you know that it's to much and time to move on, I think that takes alot of strenth. Happy Journey! Pearl

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  2. i'm glad you won't let the farm ruin Tom's health or yours ... it was good to try out ... you made the old place shine and look ever so lovely - and now it's onto the next adventure ...

    personally i got so tired from reading about all your work ... i napped alot through this phase of your life ... *chortling* ... kidding kidding ...

    i love the way our Lord keeps moving us forward - to the next dream our hearts has birthed ...

    blessings on ya!

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  3. Good for you! And really, GOOD for you, and Tom. I love all the adventures you've been on while you had this farm, as you learned things along the way instead of just hating every moment, now you have good memories and even a few "I did that!" stories. Can't wait to hear what's next for you.

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  4. I'm excited for you. I do that I ponder over something for an extended period of time and swing back and forth. Then, something will happen and I will know. A "God Moment." I love them. Then I can move forward no longer unsure of what I am to do. You will be in my prayers as you make new choices. :)

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  5. "We've lived memorably". What more could any one want. I'd say you have had one wonderful experience.
    As I've stated before, I'm feeling the same thing, but mostly about my garden right now. I need to wake up and smell the coffee...I can't manage it any more. What a hard thing to admit to myself.
    Maybe I'll just have one tomato and one cucumber plant next year...oh it's so hard to give it up!
    ps
    that big heavy thingy is pretty scary!

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  6. Amen! I know you've both really loved some aspects of your farm journey, but you are both wise enough to know when the right thing to do is move on to the next - ummmmm Challenge! I admire you both for doing all this. And now you are taking your time and getting ready for the next move. To everything there is a season.........

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  7. I have a book to add. Little Boy Lost which was reissued by Persephone Press a few years ago. The author is Marghanita Laski.

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  8. Simplicity is a beautiful thing, is it not? :)

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