Thursday, January 31, 2013

Assumptions, Suspicions And Other Fast Ways to Insanity

"Be not afraid of sudden fear, neither of the desolation of the wicked, when it comes."  ... Proverbs 3:25


So Tom and I watched this crazy (newer) Irish suspense movie last week where this young woman, who was recovering from the death of her father at the hands of intruders, bought a new house. She moves in, but soon her house gets broken into twice (bringing memories of her dad's fatal break-in encounter), her bicycle (a new gift) gets stolen, and after hanging wallpaper and painting, her sweet new boyfriend moves in (I know, I know) to protect her, but he gets clobbered in a third break-in, so they buy an alarm system.

She reads that her real estate agent (who, with her knowledge, sold her the house in an unethical way) was badly beaten-up and she suspects that the man who'd been cheated out of buying her house, has now become the intruder. But she has no proof for the police.

The neighbors appear shady, in worlds of their own, and no one comes when Silly Girl leaves them written invitations to a Christmas party. She begins seeing her new 'hood' as an evil place. Two men across the street don't answer her knock at their door (though she knows they're home) and by now the movie's playing scary music all the time.

Eventually (I'm skipping some things) she puts the house up for sale.

Her boyfriend buys Silly Girl a sweet watchdog, but when an elderly couple she's known all her life come to stay over, the dog barks like crazy while they're all sleeping and runs off into the night. The three of them can barely calm Silly Girl down after that.

She sleeps for ages after the doctor comes, then Boyfriend gives her a pill (more scary music). She takes a walk and sees, from a distance, that her boyfriend is at her house with that guy who got cheated out of it. Now not trusting anyone, she runs off and sees her stolen bicycle out behind the hardware store, the owner of which is her good friend, but now appears to be trying to pass himself off as his twin, the guy who installed her alarm system.

More scary music.

She takes a bus back to her hometown where she races to her therapist who looks at her like she's gone bonkers and when her elderly friends take her home with them, she discovers it was the husband who accidentally let the dog out that one night, not some crazed intruder as she'd believed. He'd been too embarrassed to say anything and felt horrible about the dog's loss, too.

That same night, her boyfriend comes to take Silly Girl home (Tom and I are like, "Are you crazy? Stay with your old friends!"). Yet on the way home, he's able to clear-up every single misunderstanding and it's wild but true--every scary thing that happened had a logical explanation. All of us watching now understand that yes, the guy who'd wanted her house had done most--but not all--the breaking in, but the remainder of the happenings had been because of foolish, selfish--non-evil-- decisions of other people. Kids' stuff, basically.

But the explanations came too late--by now Silly Girl is bonkers and, well, I won't tell you what happens to her poor boyfriend.

I know. Stupid movie.

But oh! The lessons. Ones like:

Protect your own sanity. (If you don't, who will?)
Renew your tired head with what God says. Discipline your emotions to stay under your control, not vice-versa.
Do things honestly, then you won't fear being 'found out.'
If you must assume something, assume the best. Don't make-up "everybody-hates-me stories" inside your head.
Have a question? Go and ask your question. It's wiser than sitting around suspecting people because of what your eyes saw or ears heard.
Or mind your own business and live happy.
Communicate, communicate, communicate.  And then communicate some more.

There are other lessons, but I'll spare you. Tom and I did enjoy discussing what Silly Girl should have done.

I'll just say that this shows how God can use just about anything to illustrate some helpful reminders, even a so-so suspense movie from Netflix. Different strokes for different folks, and all that. We each learn (and relearn) in different ways and I'm thankful that at least God understands that.


"Make it your ambition to lead a quiet life, to mind your own business and to work with your hands..."   ... 1 Thessalonians 4:11

"You will keep him in perfect peace who's mind is stayed on you because he trusts in You."  ... Isaiah 26:3

Never assume anything..... copied


You know how, in scary movies, a certain eerie music or camera angles can make a totally innocent object appear frightening or evil? Well, our eyes are like cameras and if we add suspicions and assumptions we may get a similar (inaccurate, flawed) result.



Anonymous said...

I was watching an older movie the other day and realized if it had been written now it would be much different...same story but different slant. In the older one when someone wondered what someone meant by something they said or such. Well,.. they just asked the person. How simple is that? Now a days people keep their thoughts and assumptions to themselves a lot in movies and their imaginations go wild over time. The whole movies is one mistake or assumption added to another. The difference in the older movie was it all made sense and you felt calm. I have seen the same plot done new and what a difference!! Yes the angle, form where we are seeing things sure makes a difference in the angle of the camera to the angle of how things are handled. And...boy do I like how you tie it all together to a fresh lesson in God School. :) [ and by the must have a very good memory to remember ALL those plot twists!!! :-) } Sarah

Debra said...

Sarah--oh! Your last line made me tonight--thank-you! Actually, I'm surprised I could recall that much (I was hazy on the order of a couple things, to tell the truth), because Tom and I watch many movies and I generally forget what they were about in two days--or less.

But I did keep thinking of these lessons while I watched, how I would word them for this blog, so perhaps that why I remembered. And oh, I know... so many shows we've seen (new and old) would all be so short if only people would have just *told* one another what the problem was. Tom and I talk about that often and then remind each other that stories wouldn't even have been made if good communication happened all the time--they'd be way too short and uninteresting, probably, so the writers must stretch it all out like crazy. heh. Thanks for commenting! Blessings, Debra